Gary OliverApr 2, 20202 minHealthy ConflictQ: I usually avoid conflict but that hasn’t been working. Is there such a thing as “healthy conflict”? Conflict is a part of life. Even...
Gary OliverFeb 13, 20202 minRoommate issuesQ: How do I talk with my roommate about keeping our room/bathroom clean? (Asking for a friend) Ah, yes. The messy roommate who either...
Gary OliverDec 5, 20192 minGoing home for breakQ: How do I prepare myself to spend Christmas break with my parents? The scene is set; the house is decorated for Christmas just as it...
Gary OliverSep 1, 20192 minERI: Conflict EngagementConflict engagement is the practice of addressing disagreements rather than avoiding them. Many people, often for very good reasons,...
Gary OliverApr 1, 20194 minGrowing Through ConflictWhat is the first memory that comes to mind when you hear the word conflict? How do you feel after experiencing a major conflict with...
Gary OliverMar 24, 20184 minDisagreeing SpousesQuestion My wife and I have problems agreeing on many things. We seem to hold on strongly to our parent’s view. What can we do to start...
Gary OliverDec 24, 20172 minDifferent InterestsQuestion My wife and I have nothing in common. We’ve been married nine years, and I find myself wondering what it would be like if I were...
Gary OliverNov 24, 20142 minChatty HusbandQuestion Whenever my husband talks to his family on the phone or in person, he tells them too many things. I have spoken to my husband...
Gary OliverMay 24, 20143 minChatty WifeQuestion My wife tends to talk too much about things I feel are our business. I’ve spoken to her about it, but she doesn’t think it’s a...
Gary OliverApr 12, 20143 minHealthy SpouseQuestion My husband has had bad experiences with physicians and had cancer in the past. And now he won’t go in for check-ups. I'm afraid...
Gary OliverMar 1, 20144 minFrom Crisis to ConfidenceThe year of 1996 began with great expectations in the Oliver home. On Thanksgiving my mom and dad had moved from their Southern...
Gary OliverJun 24, 20133 minForgiving SpouseQuestion My husband and I were both sexually active before we were married. In fact, I have a child from a previous relationship. When we...
Gary OliverMar 24, 20123 minUnfinished ProjectsQuestion My husband keeps starting projects on our home—then doesn’t finish them! Right now, it’s the kitchen. He tore it up—there’s no...
Gary OliverFeb 24, 20112 minParenting SpouseQuestion Since we had a child three years ago, my wife has gone overboard on being a mother—to the point where she’s mothering me. She...
Gary OliverJan 1, 20114 minCaring Enough to ConfrontLast night I called one of my closest friends to clarify the time for an upcoming meeting. While we were talking a part of me was aware...
Gary OliverOct 12, 20102 minGaming HusbandQuestion My husband and I have been married for seven years. He has a group of six or seven friends who get together three times a week...
Gary OliverMay 24, 20102 minVacationingQuestion On vacation, I like to rise early and plan our day, while my husband would rather lie in bed half the day. By the time he...