Question My husband and I are having difficulty getting pregnant. He had to go for a “swimmers” test today. They put him in a room with a TV, videos, and magazines. The videos were all “lesbian action,” as he put it. The magazines were the usual porn junk. But we’re both wondering what the church’s take on this is. Should I have gone with him to “help,” so it wouldn’t be masturbation? Should my husband think only of me when “giving his sample?” And are those realistic solutio
Question Before we were married, my wife had a lot of guy friends. Now that we’re married, she wants to keep her friends and sees no problem going out for lunch with them or meeting them for coffee to “catch up.” I'm uncomfortable with this. Am I wrong or is it okay to have close friends of the opposite sex when you’re married? Answer It’s okay and even valuable to have opposite-sex friends. Yet there are several reasons why it’s both unwise and dangerous to spend one-on-one
Question Whenever my husband talks to his family on the phone or in person, he tells them too many things. I have spoken to my husband about this and he says he understands my feelings, but he continues talking too much. What else can I do? Answer In Genesis 2:24 God said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” According to the text and our professional experience, you can’t cleave until you leave.
Question Our oldest daughter is 15 and it seems like it’s almost impossible for her to admit when she is wrong, apologize and ask for forgiveness. What can we do? How can we help her learn the importance of taking responsibility for her actions? Answer It’s one thing to teach our kids how to be responsible for things like cleaning their rooms and picking up their toys. It can be a whole different challenge to teach them how to take responsibility when they’ve done somethin
Question My husband and I have been married for six years. While I really love him and am still attracted to him, I'm also attracted to another man. I know they always say the grass is greener on the other side. How do I fight this temptation? Is something wrong with me? I’ve never been attracted to another man; my husband is my world. Is my marriage okay? Answer The fact that you find other men attractive doesn’t mean your marriage is in trouble. It may only mean that you ar
Question I’m married to the most loving, giving, and understanding man I’ve ever met. I love him dearly; however, I'm not in love with him. I don’t feel physical attraction or passion toward him. I'm not proud to say I was in a sexual relationship before my husband and I met. While that relationship was physically satisfying, he wasn’t a practicing Christian and not committed to me. Now I find myself fantasizing about my previous relationship. I don’t want to destroy my famil
Question My male friend and I have both had marital problems for a while. We started to meet at lunch to be a source of Christian support for each other. However, somehow, something more happened. While we haven’t been physically intimate, we’ve confessed physical feelings for each and have even admitted to having fantasies of being together as a couple in the future. We find ourselves sneaking to meet, and lying to our spouses about it. Have we just let the attraction thing